Tarot readers often jest about the inevitable reading request, one that most tarot teachers instruct to be outside the bounds of tarot ethics to answer matter-of-factly, that one question that is so easy to postulate as the stupidest possible question to ask the tarot, and that is the question, “Am I pregnant?”
Inside, we smirk and giggle, and ask, “Why don’t you just take a pregnancy test?” and hoot a little at how ludicrous it is for someone to ask that question to the tarot, or to any divinatory medium. Even I have been guilty of thinking that response when such a question is presented. I mean, who in their right minds would go to a tarot reader and ask “am I pregnant?” How stupid do you have to be?
About as stupid as me.
Okay, actually, I’ve never presented that question to a tarot reader. But I am here to ask all of you tarot professionals who might not have experienced this side of life to hear me out and maybe, in the future, in your head and among your emotions, be sincerely able to show compassion.
First of all, no, she can’t take a pregnancy test. Any woman who is trying to conceive can tell you about that awful, agonizing two weeks between date of ovulation and projected first day your period is supposed to start. At this time, no pregnancy test we have generally available will tell you whether you’re pregnant. The only thing you can do is wait out the two dreadful weeks and, only if your period doesn’t come on the day it’s supposed to come, do as some of you tarot readers say and “go take a pregnancy test.”
If you’re expecting, then during these two weeks, you need to behave like you’re pregnant already, take the vitamins you need to take, avoid caffeine, avoid alcohol, all to ensure the possible baby’s health. You’re emotional for physical hormonal reasons. You’re emotional for emotional reasons. Symptoms of pregnancy mimic symptoms of PMS almost to a tee, so your own body is playing head games with you. “Am I pregnant or am I just PMS-ing?” Every day passes with excruciating listlessness and every other hour is occupied by the thought, “Well, am I?”
If you’re not expecting on purpose but, you know, something happened and now you’re worried, then these two weeks are even more agonizing. You run through every scenario of how your life will change if, if you are indeed pregnant. You scare yourself half to death in two weeks’ time.
You become desperate, every conscious thought preoccupied by this looming question, and so maybe, just maybe, despite an ivy league education, three degrees on your wall, and a six figure income, you go to a tarot reader. After all, they say they’re psychic, right?
You’re not thinking straight. You’re desperate. You’re emotional. You’ve placed a great deal of stress on your own body and you don’t even know if you’re doing it for any legitimate reason. So you send out the question, “Am I pregnant?” to an online tarot reader because, yes, that’s where you are mentally and emotionally, and what do you get back. A stoic boilerplate response about ethics or something like that, and having to rephrase your question.
Don’t be that tarot reader sending out the stoic boilerplate response.
While I would still contend that trying to answer that question as presented violates most common codes of tarot ethics, see this reading request as an opportunity.
It is an opportunity to be there for someone who might be feeling very alone in her struggle. It is an opportunity to make a difference in her emotional state, to guide her, with tarot, toward a sense of spiritual balance. You can help redirect her thought focus and alleviate some of that stress she has put on herself. If nothing else, it is an opportunity for you to reach out and make someone else feel better.
If you hold any level of religious faith, then maybe this question presented to you is an opportunity for you to serve that higher good. It is a chance for you to connect on a spiritual level with someone who needs your strength right now. It is a fated encounter orchestrated by the Divine so that she can receive some consolation through this difficult, sensitive struggle and you can be that messenger for Divine compassion.
So, tarot professionals reading this, if and when you get that question, “Am I pregnant?” please don’t smirk. Please read between the lines there and with your empathy, feel how much distress and torment is seeping through. I know that most of you are already kind (or at least polite) in your actual response back to these inquiries, but please, in your mind, in your thoughts and attitude, also be genuinely kind.